3 QUICK TIPS TO STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER

Are you a people pleaser?

Do you tend to say yes to everyone, even when you want to say no?

If so, I really feel for you, because I know what that’s like.

For the major part of my life, that WAS me.

So I'm happy to say that I am now a recovering people pleaser!

Today, I want to share with you my three quick tips to stop being a people pleaser.

I call these my three Cs:

• CHOICE
• CONSIDER
• CONVICTION

1) CHOICE

This is about remembering that you ALWAYS have a choice.

You are always in control.

You don't always have to say yes to everyone.

You can actually choose to say no.

2) CONSIDER

When someone comes to you for help or someone asks you for something…

You don't automatically have to jump and say yes.

Take the time and give yourself the permission to THINK it through and to FEEL it through…

And then decide whether it is something that you wholeheartedly want to say YES or NO to.

3) CONVICTION

If you do choose to say no, you can lovingly say no with conviction.

What does that look like?

It’s the energy of “I love you AND I love me.”

You can choose to give an explanation of why you're saying no.

Or you can simply choose to say no without having to provide a justification.

It’s your choice!

You're giving yourself permission to say YES TO YOURSELF and say NO TO OTHERS.

Now this may be challenging when you first start to do this because it's going to be very different to how you used to operate.

It’s a muscle, so it will take conscious practice and effort to get comfortable saying no to people.

The first couple of times, you may feel icky…

You might fumble…

You may feel really unsure of yourself.

But once you get over it, you'll be well on your way to getting off that yes treadmill!

So those are my three quick tips - my three Cs to stop being a people pleaser.

I hope these tips have served you today.

If you any questions, please reach out. I'm here to help and I would love to hear from you.

I’m sending you so much love, magic and miracles.

As always… Live your passions, Love your life!

With Love & Gratitude,
Joergette